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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "How To Create Emotional Safety"
November 15, 2023

How To Create Emotional Safety
By Moving From 'Safe From' To 'Safe To'

November 15, 2023
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #186

Contents of this newsletter

Safe From Or Safe To?

The whole idea of emotional safety is tricky. No one can insure absolute, total, ongoing safety for themself or anyone else.

It is stil important that we do our best to create emotional safety, because without it we just live with too much crippling anxiety, which can of course lead to anger.

Let's dive a little deeper into this!

  • If your focus is on being safe from something or someone, you're operating out of fear, and you may end up creating more of what you don't want.

  • But if you're focusing on being safe to do things like relax, be at ease, laugh, be creative and spontaneous with your love, that's a different story entirely.

  • When you make that shift, you are moving from what you don't want toward what you do want. And you're choosing to focus on what you choose to create instead of focusing on what you want to escape from.

  • You're moving from the position of victim to the position of conscious creator.

Think of it this way...

When you focus on what you want to be safe "from" you are looking over your shoulder, and when you focus on what you want to be safe "to" you are looking forward in the direction you want to go.

William DeFoore

We need to do all we can to feel safe in this world. And it is no small task. This newsletter is all about how important it is that we do good, not harm with our safety focus.

Focus on your safety to feel good, connect with your loving heart, and let yourself love and be loved by those you are close to.


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