August 15, 2021
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #159
Archive issue from October,2017
Contents Of This Newsletter(In case these links don't work on your mobile device, click here to read the newsletter on the web with full functionality)
Are You Still In Rebellion?
If you are still rebelling, and that's where your anger comes from, then you're getting in your own way.
Rebellion goes along with a stage of child development...adolescence. As a matter of fact, the term "adolescent" often comes right before the term "rebellion."
Here's how you know if you're still in rebellion:
- A lot (or all) of
your anger is directed toward someone in actual or perceived authority over you.
- You do a lot of complaining about "the system," or "the man," and you blame your problems on someone you see as above you in status or power.
- You see yourself as a victim of people with more power and freedom than you have.
- Your anger doesn't really accomplish anything, and sometimes just gets you in trouble.
- You define yourself by what you're against or opposed to.
What's the problem with that? Well...it will get you nowhere and keep you angry.
It's a sign of immaturity, and as an adult, it's time you started developing mature, grownup emotions that work for you and not against you.
If you're tired of fighting a losing battle, then you're probably ready to do some growing up, so that you can actually start getting to where you want to be.
"A sure sign of healthy, mature anger is focus, determination, strength and motivation to get the job done."
The reward for growing up is greater freedom and responsibility, that literally put you in charge of your life.
A positive, optimistic attitude is a sign of strength
and intelligence, and when you combine that with calm, healthy, mature emotions, you have a powerhouse for effective growth and change.
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What's A Better Way?
First, let's talk about how you get stuck in rebellion and how to get unstuck.
It starts with your first authority figures...parents and parental substitutes. Let's look at some things you can do:
- Here is an exercise for getting clear and letting go of your parents. This is easier for some than others...you may want to get some counseling to help with the letting go.
- A lot of rebellion comes from the adolescent in you being angry about the abuse, abandonment and neglect of the child in you. Address this with inner child work.
- Read about the healthy angry man and that will give you an idea of what is involved in rising above your anger and being emotionally healthy - these ideas apply as
well to women.
- Finally, make up your mind that you're going to learn about and master healthy anger.
When anger is mature and healthy, it's nothing more and nothing less than powerful energy fueling effective action.
Life is tough, and only with all of your emotions working for you will you be able to create the life of health and happiness you choose.
This highly effective audio program, available as a CD or MP3 download, will help you understand healthy anger and how to increase
this great resource within you.
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