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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "Goodfinding Creates Healthy Anger"
November 15, 2022

Goodfinding Creates Healthy Anger
And Improves Emotional Intelligence

November 15, 2022
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #174

Contents of this newsletter

Goodfinding Is The Key To Healthy Anger

Unhealthy anger arises when you are focusing too much on what is bad, wrong, and broken in your life and relationships. While this type of negative focus is normal and unavoidable, you cannot get healthy if you allow it to dominate your thoughts.

Because you want to have healthy anger, you will benefit from learning to shift your focus to what is good, right, and working in your life, and take determined action to build on that.

Let's look a little closer at how this works:

  • When you are upset about something or someone, your mind gets busy finding all that is bad and wrong about that person or situation, building the anger and resentment inside you.

  • If you allow this to motivate your actions, you may be destructive and actually make your problem worse.

  • When you shift your focus from what you don't want to what you do want and begin moving in a positive direction, you improve your situation and your relationship.

  • This is Goodfinding and emotional intelligence in action.

Think of it this way...

"You're either looking forward at what you want, or backward at what you don't want. You can see a lot better looking forward."

William DeFoore

Look ahead. Keep your "eye on the prize." Know where you're going, and be fiercely determined to get there, knowing there will always be another horizon to enthusiastically seek. Finding the good will help the good to find you.


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