April 15, 2018
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #119
Contents Of This Newsletter
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Why Do You Get Angry With Yourself?
Surprisingly, you get angry with yourself because you have an idea about how you should be, and it's hard to measure up to that. Welcome to the human race...we all do this.
You were designed to improve. It's built into your DNA. That's why your mind thinks about how you should be, always setting high standards and expectations.
Let's look at how this works:
- You got this idea of how you should be from others. Parents, teachers, ministers, etc. have laid out for you the "right" way to be, but who really feels that they measure up to those standards?
- You also have an internal sense of the wonderful person you could actually be, and this standard can be difficult, or you can transform it into an opportunity for growth (see below).
- So, you went one of two directions. You either kept trying to measure up, and kept failing, or you gave up on that and decided to just do whatever you want regardless
- Either way, you're going to end up being angry at yourself at some level. You'll be angry at yourself for failing in your continued efforts to be "good," or you'll be angry at yourself for selling out and deciding to be "bad."
- Keep in mind that this is most likely happening on a subconscious
level, so you may not be aware of it.
The good news here is that you truly want to be a good person. The not-so-good news is that you might have a hard time measuring up to what you think a good person is.
"Focus on what you like about yourself right now, and always look forward to getting better with time, as you move toward your ideal."
The most important thing is to never give up on yourself. Many abusers with extreme anger problems have given up on their own inner goodness, and that can only lead to pain and suffering.
All you need is some peace of mind...right? Well, let's see how we can get you moving in that direction.
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How Can You Make Peace With Yourself?
This is something you are always seeking, whether you realize it or not. Think about why you do the things that you do, and you'll find that the ultimate goal is to feel happy, content and peaceful inside yourself.
Making peace with yourself is so very important, for so many reasons. Meditation is the practice of inner peace, for example, and studies have shown that regular meditation leads to better health, better mental focus, and healthy brains during the aging process.
Here are some steps to take:
- Make peace with your past, by healing old emotional wounds.
- Inner peace is like a muscle, because it gets stronger with practice. And meditation is the best practice for peace.
- Another great way to practice peace is positive journaling. When you keep your mind focused in a positive direction, you will naturally feel more peaceful.
- Get very clear about the emerging vision of the person you choose to become, as a result of your experience and growth.
- Finally, take a look at the image above. Use that for your journaling, or just in your thought processes. Love all of the
good things about who, how and where you are now, and look forward to things getting better and better!
The peace you want is already in there inside you, waiting for you. You just have to make sure you visit often.
You can do this. You've got what it takes. Make up your mind to practice some of these techniques for at least 21 days, and you'll see some positive results.
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