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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "Transform It Don't Transmit It"
August 15, 2020

Transform It Or Transmit It
Healing Anger Is An Inside Job

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August 15, 2020
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #147

Archive issue from June, 2018

Contents Of This Newsletter

How Does Transforming It Prevent Transmitting It?

You know the old saying, "Every time you point a finger in scorn—there are three remaining fingers pointing right back at you." Well, that's what we're talking about here. It's called projection.

Think of it like this. You've got your own internal pain, fear and anger, like everybody else. You've got a strong desire to "work it out." If you're not looking at yourself & trying to resolve your internal issues, you're going to try to work it out by projecting it onto others, or stuffing it inside to your own detriment. It's as simple as that.

Here's a step-by-step look at how this works:

  • Things happen to all of us. We get hurt by abuse, neglect and/or abandonment, and we put it behind us and move on.

  • But that pain, fear and anger doesn't just sit there "behind us" wants out. It's actually how we heal...we work the problem out so it's not eating at us inside.

  • If you don't consciously do something about your internal trauma, it will find a way out on its own, and it's never in a good way when that happens.

  • If you do work through things and transform your pain and anger, there's no need for the subconsciously held trauma to find its way out in a dysfunctional way.

  • When you don't take care of your internal business and transform your stuff, it gets transmitted as anxiety, depression, anger and even illness.

Here's a good way to get started, with the healing your inner child program, which is an excellent beginning to transforming your internal issues.

"Accusation is confession."

John N. DeFoore, Sr.

Another quote you may be familiar with is, "As within, so without." It's ancient wisdom from Hermes Transmegistus and it's just as true today as it was all those years ago.

One of the reasons this approach of looking at yourself and transforming your own anger & pain is not so popular is that most folks prefer to take the victim position, and that means blaming others while nursing your wounds, not healing them.

Keep your positive connections working for you by discovering all of the ways to participate in the Goodfinding Community Online page.

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How Do I Transform My Anger & Pain?

First you need to know your story, which you can start with this journaling exercise.

Believe me, you're going to like transforming it far better than transmitting it. You either work on your stuff, or it works on you...and when it works on you, it's not pretty.

Here are some steps to get started:

It's simply a matter of tending to your own business before getting too caught up in the business of others. It just makes good sense.

Get some excellent guidance on doing your inner work in Robert Johnson's book, Inner Work.


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