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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "The Power Of Words"
December 15, 2020

The Power Of Words
And How To Use Them To Greatest Benefit

power of words

December 15, 2020
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #151

Archive issue from February, 2018

Contents Of This Newsletter

How Words Can Hurt

It starts at birth. Children process verbal input long before they can speak, so the words spoken around children make a difference...always.

Ask yourself what words you heard when you were a child, and look at the beliefs you may have formed about yourself, other people and the world because of those words.

Here's what happens when we hear critical, angry and derogatory words:

  • As a child, you were busy forming your identity as a person, and the primary way you did that was by listening to and watching the people around you.

  • If you heard criticism, anger and verbal abuse, then you may have formed a negative self-image because of that.

  • Then, without realizing it, you carry that self-image through your life, and unconsciously look for evidence to support it. Unfortunately, you will probably find it, because of how we each carry out a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy in our relationships.

"Words matter. The words you think, the words you hear, and the words you speak. Start paying attention, and use words that serve you and your loved ones well."

William DeFoore

Much of the time, folks speak without thinking. That's when you hear things like, "I didn't mean that," "I wasn't thinking," or "It just came out."

There is a strong tendency to repeat the words you've heard, but often that's not a good idea at all, especially if you've been a victim of verbal abuse, or exposed to a lot of sarcasm, ridicule and negativity.

Journaling is a great, easy way to become more aware of your words, and to begin nudging yourself toward more positive, encouraging, uplifting words that will help you and everyone you know.

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The Words That Help

You truly are a good person, and you want to help, not hurt. That's why you're here, reading this right now.

Make up your mind right now to start paying attention to the words you say to yourself and others, and you'll find your life steadily getting better.

Here are the words you need to hear and speak to others:

  • I believe in you. I think you're smart and have a good heart, and you'll figure out how to solve your problems and move on.

  • You have the ability to change your behavior, one step at a time, and you will succeed.

  • You are strong. I trust you to make good decisions, and learn from your not-so-good decisions.

  • Love is who you are, and why you're here. Your greatest need is to love and be loved. The more you express your love, the more fully yourself you will become.

Start today using these journaling processes, to get the negative stuff out of the way, and start being more and more loving, kind and generally positive with your words and thoughts.

It all starts inside, with the words you're thinking and saying to yourself. When you use those journaling practices, you will become more and more aware, which is the first step to change, and becoming the person you choose to be.


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