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Dr. DeFoore's Healing Anger Newsletter entitled "Criticism, Doubt & Questioning"
October 15, 2019
Criticism, Doubt & Questioning
"Nobody changes their behavior for the better in a lasting way as a result of criticism, doubt and questioning."
There is a powerful need and desire for autonomy, independence and self- esteem in every one of us. These needs and desires are threatened every time you are questioned, doubted or criticized.
Since the original purpose of criticism is to make things better, let's look at some ways that actually do make things better in your relationships.
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If you find yourself caught in a pattern of criticizing, doubting and questioning your loved ones, you are probably having some frustration and anger in those relationships...coming from you and the other person both.
Let's look at some perspectives and approaches that actually do work.
You actually can have a very positive impact on your loved ones, but it does not come from focusing on their shortcomings, limitations and faults.
This approach is based on the fact that people do not change their behavior as a result of criticism, doubt and questioning...people grow, improve and change the most successfully in an atmosphere of love and support.
If you're in a relationship with an abuser, this is not necessarily the approach for you. Learn how to deal with abusive relationships here.
Of course, there's a lot more to creating and maintaining positive, healthy relationships than we're able to cover here.
This audio program called Expectations In Marriage: Healthy Ways To Deal With Anger And Disappointment In Relationships will give you a lot more information about not only a healthy marriage, but about healthy relationships in general.
This highly effective audio program, available as a CD or MP3 download, will help you understand and improve your marriage and all of your relationships.
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The Healing Anger Newsletter brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace.
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