Young And Angry!

by Sasha
(Hartford City)

Everyday of my life I find a reason to try and hate the person I am with and blame him for everything that makes me unhappy. If I do not get exactly what I want and hear what I want, I feel a rush of anger go through my veins and I scream and yell and find reasons to make him lash back.

Once he does lash back, it makes me feel better, like I have now brought him into my world. It's awful and I am sick of it. I want to be nice to people and especially him. But the anger/rage eats me alive.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Sasha, and thanks for telling your story here. I can tell you're having a very hard time, and that you want to change and by nice to people. That's good that you want to change. I will try to help.

Your anger is there for a reason, and you need to find out what that reason is. If you do all of the exercises recommended on this FAQ page, I think you will begin to feel some real healing and relief.

You may also want to practice these anger management techniques daily, until they become automatic. We also have many audio CDs/downloads that you can use to help with your healing and anger control.

It will help you to read through each of these pages as well:

how to deal with abusive relationships
quotes on relationships
relationship advice
letting go of a relationship

Make up your mind to do this, Sasha, and you will. You are worth it. Believe in the goodness of your heart, and make up your mind to become the good person you truly are inside. The tools I've recommended will help you get there.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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