What Is Too Passive Or Too Aggressive?

by Samantha
(Colorado )

Sometimes I am way too passive where I feel like a punk at times and at other times I am way too aggressive to where I feel abusive. I am passive with certain people and I am aggressive with other people.

I need help, please.

I don't know what is going on and I can't afford to pay for the help!

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Samantha, and thanks for telling your story here. Your challenge between being passive and aggressive is a tough one, but you can make some headway with this.

There is good reason for everything you feel. You just need to figure out what some of those reasons are.

Start by doing the three journaling processes you will find described on this page. And be sure and watch the video at the end of that page.

In between passive and aggressive are two very important words: assertive action. When you do the above exercises, you will start being more assertive, and that will feel much better to you.

These communication skills for conflict resolution will help you to directly confront someone, without being either passive or aggressive.

Use these imagery processes for emotional healing to deal with any past trauma, and this two part imagery process for positive mental rehearsal to prepare yourself to be assertive in upcoming encounters.

You can do this, Samantha. Use these tools, and keep working on this until you get what you want.

Never, ever give up.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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