We Had A Five Year Relationship And A Child Together And I Can't Forgive His Betrayal

by Ambar
(New York, NY)

I was in a 5 yr relationship with the father of my child and suddenly he told me he needed some space. We were arguing a lot but never thought we were going to end up breaking up.

Yesterday he locked himself in the bathroom and I found out he was with someone else. I was a good wife to him and never did anything bad to him. I feel like I was very good to him and I don't deserve all this betrayal.

I know that he will regret what he is doing to me and I won't take him back. I just want to move on with my daughter and forget about him. The hardest part is that I live in his parents' house because my daughter and I don't have anywhere to go.

His father loves me and he is upset on what his son is doing to me and is telling to me stay because if I go, things will get worse. He doesn't want his son to bring other women into his house.

I really want to move on with my life and prove to him I don't need him. The woman he is with is not worth it! Well, thank you. I hope you can answer my story.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Ambar, and thanks for telling your story here. I know it is sad and frustrating, what you are going through. The important thing at this point is to do your best to take care of yourself and your daughter. I will try to help.

You are going through a grieving process, over the loss of your relationship. I suggest you follow the steps in this page on grieving. I know your partner is not dead, but your relationship has indeed died, because of your partner's unfaithfulness.

You will also find the following pages on relationships and letting go to be helpful:

quotes on relationships
quotes on letting go
letting go of a relationship

I also encourage you to learn about nurturing your inner child, which is a good way to heal emotionally and increase your self esteem.

Watch this great video, and imagine that the singer is singing directly to you. Believe in yourself.

You can do this, Ambar. You can move on and create a good life for yourself and your daughter.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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