Stay For The Kids?

by Carlos
(Los Angeles)

Thanks for your wonderful site. I took your test and scored a 49, Serious.

I have been married for over 10 years. For the last several years, our in-laws have lived with us on and off. During that time, I was very frustrated with them and had rages, the type of which are often described here.

Although they have recently moved out, I am so disappointed and resentful that I would leave, were it not for our children. I know this is a bad situation for me, since they are still in our lives, but I don't want to give my kids a broken home.

How should I cope?




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Carlos, and thanks for telling your story here. It sounds like your situation is very challenging, and it's clear that you're having a hard time deciding what to do. I will try to help.

I suggest that first you work on your anger, using the steps recommended on this FAQ page. Also, you will benefit from reading these pages on relationships:

quotes on relationships
relationship advice
letting go of a relationship
dealing with marital problems

This will help you sort through your emotions and hopefully it will help you arrive at the best decision about what you need to do next.

First priority, Carlos, is to get your own emotions healthy. Only then will you have the mental clarity to make a good decision regarding your family and your marriage.

You can do this. Believe in yourself and the goodness of your heart.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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