Some Feeling Of Family

by Anna

One of the most heartbreaking things that I have ever felt in my life was an absence of family. I come from a big family of eight children, yet I felt as though I had no family at all. I felt as if I was an outsider.

I heard someone say that when they went to a support group, it was the first time they had ever had a feeling of family. It made me realize that we are not always dependent only on our family of origin for a source of love and belonging.

I wrote the affirmation script below in an attempt to create a feeling of family for myself. When I use it a lot I find that I connect more to people, animals, nature and others. I feel so much less alone. I believe that when I say that I can learn from God, that God will find a way to teach me.


BEING A FAMILY

I learn about how to be a good family member from God and from other sources I can trust. I also remember what I've already learned when I need to.

I know that it's OK for me to look at, face, feel and heal from any difficult childhood and past and past life memories and feelings that I have about the family I grew up in. I remember both the functional and dysfunctional things about my family of origin and what it was like to grow up in that family.

I learn what I need to learn about how to be a family with the members of my family of origin if it is healthy for me to do so.

I allow myself to be a part of the family that I am supposed to be a part of. I have within myself a caring and functional parent to take care of my inner child. I can also connect to some people, nature, and energies in the world and the universe for a feeling of family when I need to. I know that God and some spirits are a source of family and love for me.

I go by my own feelings, intuitions, insights, God, and to other sources that I can trust, to know what people, spirits, animals, and others are supposed to be a part of my family. I also have a feeling of family that is within me. It is a part of me. I know that I deserve to be a part of a good family.

I see all of the members of my family as important to me. I know that all of the members of my family have the right to be who they really are. I respect the members of my family and I love and accept them just as they are. I also love and accept myself just as I am, and I know that I am an important member of my family.

My spouse, my children, their spouses and my grandchildren are always a part of my family no matter what.

I do not expect the members of my family to be perfect.

I can also find some time just to myself when I need that. I know that it is important for me to be myself. I do my best to find a balance between being an individual self, and connecting to others when I am supposed to connect to them.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Thank you Anna, for this wonderful contribution. You cover all of the important points about family here, and a lot of people will benefit from what you have offered.