She Didn't Deserve It

by John
(Pennsylvania )

Sonya and I were at a party with friends, I remember sitting on a chair next to her, the next thing I remember, we are outside, and she is laying on the ground crying.

To my horror, she later told me she ran out of party, yelling for me to stop. She then grabbed me by my arm, and she told me I turned around with a wild look in my eyes and punched her in her face.

I have tried to remember any of this, I can't. I've been with her for 11 years, and this is first time for this. I've had blackouts before, but not this severe. She has forgiven me for it, but I will never be able to forgive myself.

I will spend the rest of my life, making it up to her.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello John, and thanks for telling your story here. It is great that you feel regret for you actions, and that you want to make this up to Sonya.

I am going to be very straight-forward with you. Sonya was too quick to forgive you, from what you've written here. Knowing only what I know from your brief account, it seems very clear that you are an alcoholic. If you don't quit drinking and get into an alcohol recovery program like Alcoholics Anonymous, then this problem will just keep happening...and getting worse.

The time to act is now. Don't wait any longer.

There is even an online alcohol recovery class you can take. Just take action now. Join AA, stop drinking, and then you can possibly avoid blacking out and abusing Sonya again.

I hope you take what I'm saying seriously. Alcoholism is a progressive disease, and things will get worse until you get into recovery.

Do this for yourself. That's the only way it will work.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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