On The Verge Of Losing My Relationship

by Diane
(Houston)

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He has put up with a lot from me and vice versa. He believes I have an anger problem and it's jeopardizing our relationship.

I do not want to lose him so I am taking the necessary actions to take care of whatever it is I am going through. I get angry and yell at him when I feel he is not understanding my side in an argument. I yell at him to get my point across.

Sometimes I walk away because I am so angry and I don't want to fight or argue. I have a sassy mouth and can have an attitude also. I feel like he never takes ownership to how he makes me feel and when I try to talk calmly it doesn't last very long before I'm losing it.

I'm not violent but my anger seems to be taking control of my relationship.

I don't want to lose him over this.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Diane, and thanks for telling your story here. I congratulate you for taking responsibility for your anger, and taking this action to help yourself. If you don't understand your anger, you don't understand yourself. I think you will benefit greatly by doing what I recommend. I suggest you do it for yourself, not for anyone else.

I strongly recommend that you do all of the exercises on this FAQ page, which is perfectly designed to help someone in your position.

I also suggest that you read the following page:

information on women's anger

You can do this, Diane. You can be the person you choose to be, and express your emotions in healthy ways.

Believe in yourself.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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