No Patience For Stupid People

by Mike
(York, PA)

I find myself at work having no patience for people who make mistakes anymore.

I feel that if I don't challenge them aggressively with reprimands that they will not get it.

I need helping in putting things in perspective because I am too often stressed out by all of this.

Help.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Mike, and thanks for asking for help here. A lot of people can relate to what you're feeling. It is very common to think, "If it weren't for all those other people, those other drivers, who keep making mistakes and screwing things up, I'd be fine." The only problem with this attitude is that it leads to total misery. It just doesn't work---why?

Because it's just not true. Everybody around you acting right would not solve your problem. Because the problem is in you--or me, when I'm thinking that way.

You may have heard the quote from the "Pogo" comic strip, where he says, "We have met the enemy, and he is us."

That's the bottom line here, Mike. There must be some things about yourself you have never accepted and/or come to terms with. You have to make peace with yourself in order to treat others well.

Try the journaling exercises on this page, as a starting point. It will really help you to "tell your story" in this way.

Also try these anger management techniques and see if they are a fit for you.

"You're as good as the best and no better than the rest." Ever heard that? There's a lot of truth there.

Everybody has a story, Mike. And everybody has a gift to offer.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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