My World Is Falling Apart Because Of My Anger
Well let me start with the first topic. I've let past experiences with family friends or relationships get in the way of my productivity in life. Sometimes I feel as if nothing can ever go right no matter what I do.
I'm always trying to please multiple people at once and when it doesn't work or if I feel like I failed in my journey to please everyone, I express anger in the wrong way. I rarely think about myself or my feelings.
Once I get so far I feel like there's nothing I can do and I feel failure and in with that I feel anger cause I feel worthless and unwanted. I love to help people with their problems but don't really know how to overcome my own.
I express anger in the wrong way. I generally break stuff and say stuff that I don't mean at all and in return I hurt people or myself. The way I express anger is through breaking stuff or punching stuff and driving out of control. I don't wanna be like this anymore.
I think a lot of this built up anger is from how my family used to be when I was young. I always saw fighting and arguing. I had a very rough child hood.
My father used to be the way that I am now. I'm very violent and loud. I hate the way I am and so does everyone else around me, friends, family, girlfriend, everyone. I'm blaming myself for my anger no one else.
I have to control it because I'm losing everything and everyone. I just want to know where all this anger is coming from. I've been trying to figure it out myself and it's just not working. It's gone too far. I can't control it anymore and it's ruining my life.
I just need some answers, answers that I've been looking for since I realized it was a problem. I wanna be happy not this angry person anymore. I feel very irritable 75% of the time and it takes nothing to push it to the point of breaking stuff and yelling and screaming.
I really need help or my life will never amount to anything.Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello Tim, and thanks for telling your story here. I respect your integrity in taking full responsibility for your anger, and not blaming others for your problems. I think you're really ready to make some changes, and I will try to help.
Please do all of the exercises you will find on this FAQ page
. These are powerful tools, but like any tools they only work for you if you use them regularly and develop skills at using them effectively.
To help you not to be like your father, do the exercises on this page
designed to help you let go of those negative influences.
It is your good heart--the goodness inside you that makes you want to change. And it's that same goodness that makes you want a life that amounts to something. You can do this, Tim. Your story written here shows a lot of strength.
Believe in yourself, and keep using these tools until you get the results you want.
My very best to you,