My Girlfriend Has Anger Problems And Has Admitted That She Needs Help

by David
(CA, USA)

I have a girlfriend that I have been with for 4 years and I really love her, but her anger problem is getting out of control. She's always starting fights and gets physical a lot.

She will slap me hard as a reaction for the dumbest reasons and will dig her nails in me always trying to fight, and constantly complaining. She talks with attitude to her sisters and dad. I always bite my tongue and let it slide but I can only take so much!

It's out of control and its ruining my life and our relationship. I need help. We need help.

She admitted she has a problem but I don't think anger management is an option. Please help!

I want our relationship to work out, not just walk away--which I'm close to doing, but I can't.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello David, and thanks for telling your story here. It is good that you're asking for help. And it's good that your girlfriend admits that she has a problem. That's the first step. The other steps are the hardest to take, especially for her.

I suggest you read these pages for yourself, about relationships like the one you have:

quotes on relationships
relationship advice
letting go of a relationship

And suggest to your girlfriend that she follow all of the recommendations on this FAQ page. If she does all of that regularly for about 6 months to a year, she will probably experience some lasting healing and personal growth.

My very best to both of you,

Dr. DeFoore

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