My Fiance Is An Alcoholic And I Don't Know What To Do

by Re
(D.C)

What shall I do? My fiance is an alcoholic. We have 9 children, one biologically ours together.

Recently my fiance became physical and blacked out. He attends alcohol programs but he doesn't put the techniques to work.

What shall I do?

Confused.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Re, and thanks for telling your story here. I encourage you to find an ALANON meeting in your area and attend. You need input and support from others who are in relationship with alcoholics. ALANON is designed to help people in your situation.

You have to put yours and your children's safety first, above your love for your fiance and your efforts to support him. He will either get sober and stay in recovery or he won't. That is his responsibility, not yours. You can't do anything about his addiction, only he can.

You need to be aware that until he is in recovery, alcohol will be his top priority, and he will place drinking above the welfare of you and your children. That's why it's so important that you make it your job to take care of yourself and your children. If you are afraid for yours or your children's physical safety, then contact a women's shelter or family support facility in your area.

Get help from AA and ALANON people in your community. They are your best resource under these circumstances.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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