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Submitted by: Anonymous

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I have 4 children and been with him for 4yrs. My 2 older children are with my previous partner, my 2 youngest are with my current partner. I feel he treats them differently. He shouts at me and the children for no reason. I've had enough.

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Submitted by: Abby

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Hi When I first started reading your story I felt sorry for your boyfriend. I was an abused kid myself and it takes time to straighten yourself out. However, your boyfriend's behaviour is obviously escalating. That means, think about the scariest thing that's happened...it's going to get worse. He may be a very loving boy underneath but he is putting you in physical danger. It's like a warning. Danger Danger Danger. Even if you were doing something unfair to him, he does not have the capacity to handle it well. If you aren't doing anything unfair, that's an even bigger problem. He's making it your problem either way - a big sign that something isn't right. No woman EVER gets involved with an abusive man. No, they get involved with someone loving, charming, funny, intelligent etc. By the time you realize that something isn't right, you have difficulty removing yourself because you love the person that they have shown you. We tend to blame ourselves because, if it's our fault, we can fix it. But it isn't our fault so we can never fix it. Physical violence of any sort is NEVER okay. It's rings huge warning bells that you must not ignore. You don't have to be cruel to him but you have to get away. He needs help to come to terms with whatever is driving him to behave this way. Look after yourself.

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