My Boyfriend Gets So Angry

by Angela
(Manchester)

I've been seeing my boyfriend for six months. He was such a lovely, gentle, caring man and treated me so nice compared to my previous partner.

His mum became ill and unfortunately passed away. I've done my best to love and support him through his grief, but he's become so angry at times directing it all at me, and my children who adore him.

He exploded on me again the other day because I suggested he may need help. He said I was a very intrusive control freak, who needs to channel my energy elsewhere. I did comment. It really upset me as I have only tried to be there for him. He is an only child with an elderly dad.

The next day he apologized, but said I make him feel like he's going mental when I keep going on about counseling. I love him dearly but don't know how much more I can take. And I fully understand that he's grieving.

I don't know how to help him. Please advise me. Thank you.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Angela, and thanks for telling your story here. Your concerns are valid, and it's good that you want to help your boyfriend. You will find the help you're looking for on this FAQ page.

You will find that your focus needs to shift from your boyfriend to yourself, Angela. He has to take care of himself, and it is up to you to take care of yourself.

You can do this--do it for yourself.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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