My Angel Baby Snatched From My Loving Arms

by Jodie
(Nottingham)

I lost my son in labour 2 and a half years ago through neglect and complacency of our mid wife. This has still left me devastated and very angry.

I conceived my 2nd son 10 weeks after, which left me confused and guilty. 2 and a half years on I'm still receiving grief counseling which has helped, but I still find myself slipping back and taking my anger out on my partner.

I fear our relationship is on melt down and my son will be affected. I became very ill 4 months after my second son was born and had to hold off another pregnancy until I get my op.

I feel like I'm in limbo again and I might never get another chance to have a brother or sister for my son! I'm angry at other women having babies again.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Jodie, and thanks for telling your story here. I imagine that your pain must be tremendous, over the loss of your son in labour. I'm glad you're getting grief counseling, and I encourage you to continue with that.

It sounds like your anger is the main issue at this point. I strongly encourage you to do the exercises on this FAQ page. This will help you to understand and heal your anger for the long term.

It will also help you to read these pages on relationships:

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I don't know how you will feel about this, but I think it will greatly benefit you to try to be happy for other mothers. Find a place in your heart to be glad for their joy and good fortune.

Believe in yourself, Jodie. Believe in the goodness of your heart, and focus on the blessings in your life. Love is who you are, and the anger is merely a reaction to your pain.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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