My 35 Year Old Physical Trainer Son Physically Abuses Me
(New York )
My 35 year old son is a physical trainer, weighs about 230 lbs, and is 6'2" tall. He recently grabbed hold of me with all his strength and aggressively shook me left to right while verbally screaming at me in my face. At times he has punched the cabinet next to me telling me it's my fault that he's angry.
I am 62 years old and myself and my wife are happily married for 42 years. Our son has been off and on drugs and alcohol for the past 15 years, most recently about 3 months ago. He has a beautiful 2 1/2 year old daughter who splits living with us half the time and the mother half the time.
My son is also taking Suboxone. He has also tried steroids. His drugs of choice have been heroin, cocaine, opiates and alcohol. My wife and I are afraid of him now, since he displayed this physical abuse towards us.
This is the third time he has made threats of physical harm in the past few months. He has punched holes in our walls, but this is the first time he actually made very aggressive physical contact with me.
We would like to know how to handle this and what steps to take because we are both afraid he might act out again. We did call the police but by the time they arrived 3 hours later we decided we didn't want him to be arrested.
Also note he has lived with us his entire life. He had his daughter out of wedlock and has tried living with his girlfriend on two separate occasions to no avail. He has lived with us throughout his life with the exception of those two times with girlfriend, which was only about a month in total.
Also all this abuse took place in the presence of our granddaughter who we love so very much.
Please help us save our son and protect ourselves.