Learning From Friends' Anger

by C.M. Richard
(WI)

I know two people that are perfect examples of the need for anger management. The first "friend" has a strong tendency for road rage. I noticed the road rage occurs whether he is driving or riding. A situation that was almost worst case occurred when I was driving him through town and a semi cut me off. Although I was upset, my friend "freaked-out." When we pulled up behind the truck at the next stop light, my friend jumped out of the vehicle, started screaming at the driver, then pounded on the door of the truck until the guy got out. The guy was much larger than my friend and fortunately had much better control of his temper. Fortunately, my friend came to his senses and just walked away (still yelling).

My other "friend" has not been so lucky. His anger frequently arises in social situations, usually after having a few too many drinks. His temper has not only brought physical violence, but has caused him to spend time in jail and lose friends. I have learned from these people. Although I have been in situations that make me angry, I try to remember this quote, ”When anger rises, think of the consequences.”

Response from Dr. DeFoore

You point out something very important in the second example, and that is the combination of anger and alcohol. They just don't mix--or, if they do it usually leads to an explosion. Most of the anger problems that lead to violence involve alcohol. I'm glad you're learning from watching others!