I've Never Been Angry Until I Fell Deeply In Love

by Anonymous

I have never been an angry person, and never gotten extremely mad about anything in my life. I have also never been super excited about anything. I don't know if that's relevant but I think about it.

I've been living with my boyfriend for about four months and I have been getting very violent with him over things that can be solved by talking. It has been getting worse every time it happens and it has happened way too many times. I have been trying to fix it but it is not helping.

I do not like being this way. I love him with all my heart. I've never loved anyone the way I love him. I care and I want the best for him and if I can't fix this I won't be best for him.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. It is great that you want to be your best for this man you love. You need to be just as interested in yourself as you are in him. I will try to help.

I think the intensity of your love in this relationship has taken you farther into your heart than you've ever been in your adult life. Love is the deepest emotion of all, and it stirs up all other emotions when it is stirred up. I think that's why you're getting more angry now than ever.

I think you will benefit from the processes described on this FAQ page. Take these seriously, and do them thoroughly, and you will benefit.

I also suggest you learn about nurturing your inner child, self love and the angry woman.

These pages on relationships will also help:

quotes on relationships
relationship advice

It would be good if you and your boyfriend could both read Getting The Love You Want and complete all of the exercises in the book together.

Creating a great relationship is challenging, but you can do it. Believe in yourself and your good heart.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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