It Started As A Fairy Tale

by Sonia
(Pakistan)

I have been with a guy for 3 years. He has been loving and kind and understanding. He wants to marry me and talk to my parents too. But he gets mad at the tiniest things.

He is extremely possessive, I'm not allowed to talk to guys or hang out with them. I'm not even allowed to talk to his guy friends. I am fine with all that because I love him and I can't live without him. But when he gets mad it's really scary.

He screams, gets mad at my past relationships, and if something goes wrong in my family he blames me for it. When he's in a good mood he's amazing. I love him a lot. I want to marry.

He has never hit me but he screams at me when he's mad or if I do something he doesn't like. He's grabbed me by the arm and pushed me away when he's angry but I still love him because with every flaw he has he has made me a better person.

He does get emotionally abusive when angry. But he has helped me through a very rough phase in my life. We want to get married in one year.

Can my love and patience change him? Can I do something to change his anger issues? I can't talk to my family or friends about it, I just need help. Sometimes I feel so alone because I can't tell him all these things about him. I need help.

I’m confused.