In A Long Distance Relationship And Don't Want To Lose Him

by Kayla Marie
(Connecticut)

Dear Dr. DeFoore: So I'm with this guy, and I really do love him, and he is very understanding. However, every time I talk to him, I'm so grumpy. It's gotten to the point where I just snap at him. He honestly doesn't do anything wrong to me, I just get so mad.

I get mad because we are in a long distance relationship and I just want to be with him. I feel bad though because now every time we talk I'm freaking out on him, and yelling because I just get mad. I think the distance is why I'm mad but I'm not too sure.

My question basically is, how can I go about this, without being so angry towards him? One, he doesn't deserve it, and two I just don't want to lose him. But in the moment, I don't think about that when we talk. Please help, I'm at me wit's end here. Thank you.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Kayla Marie, and thanks for telling your story here. I think there is more behind your anger than just the long distance, and wanting to be with him. There is a story behind your anger, and if you can find out what that is, it might help you to relax and accept things better.

In other words, the answers you need are inside you, and I will help you find them. First, do all of the exercises on this FAQ page. Be sure and do everything recommended, and you will get a lot of benefit. This is not a quick fix, but if you really do this work, you'll get lasting healing and you will feel a whole lot better.

I also suggest that you read the following pages on relationships:

quotes on relationships
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And you might want to check out our audio program on nurturing your inner child, to help you focus more on loving yourself.

You can do this, Kayla Marie, if you set your mind and good heart to it.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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