I'm Not Sure How To Fix It

by Matt
(Ludlow, MA)

So I just got back from a trip with some friends and my sister told me they didn't want me around because I was acting like an asshole. It made me feel like crap to hear that. I did notice I was feeling angry/frustrated inside, but didn't realize it was showing.

This happens all the time, and everything I think I do to try and fix it never seems to work. I think I'm pushing people away in my life and it's not a good feeling.

I realized about 2 or 2 1/2 years ago that I wasn't really feeling anything other than anger and frustration. I don't ever feel happy or even just satisfied. It's gotten to the point of depression and just a feeling of not wanting to be around anyone. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Matt, and thanks for telling your story here. Your anger is there for a reason. If you follow my recommendations, you will be able to figure out what that is, and begin the resolution.

Do all of the exercises recommended on this FAQ page, and you will start to feel some relief. You will start to feel your other emotions, and hopefully, you will feel some happiness. These positive journaling exercises will be especially helpful for that--but be sure you do all of the other exercises as well.

The reason you don't like how you've been feeling is that it's not who you really are inside. Your true nature is to be a happy, loving person, and you are frustrated that you haven't been able to feel that way.

I hope this helps you. Believe in yourself, and make up your mind to be that good person that you know you are.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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