I'm Angry

by Ben
(California)

Whenever my mom bitches at me about anything, and even when she isn't causing problems and just tells me a true fact about me that I do not like, I explode and can't control myself or my anger. I have many holes in my walls and break a lot of my things when I have this rage. I am 15 years old, 6"4 225 lbs.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Thanks for telling your story on this site. It's really good that you want things to be better. You're obviously smart enough to know that the rage and explosions need to be controlled, or your problem might just get worse. I will try to help.

Here are some things to try:

1) Go to this page, which is designed for teenagers dealing with anger problems.

2) Read and practice these anger management techniques over and over until you see improvement in your communication with your mom.

3) Start a daily journal, and write (a) from your anger, and (b) what you appreciate about yourself, your life and your mom. Focus on the positive aspects of your life, and remind yourself of those every day. Otherwise, your mind will keep taking you back to the problems, and you will continue blaming your mom. Shift your focus to what is good, right and working about your mom and your life. I'll bet there is more good than bad in your life, if you really look for it!

4) Subscribe to our Healing Anger Newsletter, and you will recieve the free Anger Management Techniques Ebook.

5) If you're willing to invest a little money in your healing process, consider buying one of these books or one of these CDs. You will see all of our products on this page.

6) If you don't already do it, get regular physical exercise. You're a big, strong guy, and working out will feel good to you, and it will help you use up some of your energy. You might also consider signing up for a martial arts class, to learn the discipline and focus that those practices provide.

Believe in yourself. You can do this. You can create a better relationship with your mom--you don't have to wait for her to change.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore