If Something Does Not Go The Right Way

by Narissa
(Georgia, USA)

My name is Narissa. I am 20 years old. I am in a relationship, and I feel like I am always yelling, bickering, arguing, and nagging.

I hate feeling like this. I feel if something does not go my way, or the right way, I get mad. I have an attitude problem, where it comes and goes all the time. Like I don't mean to do it on purpose, but it will come out of me.

I take my anger out on others, and at times say what I feel, without caring for others' feelings. When I get mad I scream, yell, try and punch things, grunt, and make noises.

I can't always hold in my anger. Mostly when I do I become irritated or frustrated and I do not handle the situation, I just sweep it under the rug and when I do blow it comes out on the ones I love. I keep a lot of things held in, and do not know how to properly release the stress I am under.

I feel like this puts a tear in my relationship. My family feel like they can not say too much to me, or I will snap. I hate feeling like this, but when I become angry it controls my whole body. I took the quick anger test, and I need help. If you have any suggestions please let me know.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Narissa, and thanks for telling your story here. I think you'll find the answers you're looking for on our FAQ page.

Do the exercises recommended, and you will definitely feel better and be better able to manage your anger.

Believe in your good heart, do the work, and you will succeed!

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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