I Was In An Abusive Relationship For Seven Years

by LM

I am twenty five, and I was in an abusive relationship for seven years with my son's father. In June it'll be two years since I have been out of that relationship.

My whole mindset is off. I'm slowly trying to build my self esteem and confidence. It's been the best two years of my life though.

I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone, and everyone is better than me. I second guess myself and feel incompetent. I went back to school and am doing great but it still sucks.

I look back now and wonder why I stayed in that abusive relationship. I think so bad of myself and think everyone is talking about me or sees me as ugly etc. It's going to be a long battle.

I have been hit in front of my son and what makes it so bad is that my son acts like his dad is god. Maybe that is why he is so defiant. My son is 6 by the way.

I have hope though. It just sucks because I'm still young, and it's like my life is destroyed because of this. I am too scared to find a good job because again I feel like I'm not good enough for anything.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello L.M., and thanks for telling your story here. I'm glad that your last two years have been the best of your life, and that you still have hope. It's clear that you are still healing and recovering from the abusive relationship, but it sounds like you're definitely making progress.

I suggest you read each of the following pages, and follow the recommendations you find there:

letting go of a relationship
learn to love yourself
raise your self esteem
nurturing your inner child
stages of grief

I think this will help you to continue feeling better, and reach your goals.

Believe in yourself and the goodness of your heart.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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