I Want To Close The Door On A Childhood Anger

by Elain
(TX)

My mother left me when I was 4 yrs old. Before that she had been in trouble for selling her body to men. Any way she chose men over her child. I was raised here and there.

My father went to prison for killing one of her men -- and I believe he killed the wrong person.

Anyway, she chose to come back into my life when I was around the age of 23 yrs old. I tried to sit down and talk to her and I let her know up front just how I felt about all of it.

To this day she is so rude and does things that are not called for. I wish I could close the door on this relationship and burn the key. I just found out that she is moving to the town I live in.

I need some help to work with this feeling. I found it eating at me. I do not know where to start.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Elain, and thanks for telling your story here. It is clear that you need to set clear boundaries in your relationship with your mother.

I suggest that you do the writing exercises on this page. This will help you work through some of the trauma you experienced growing up. This is very important so that you can fully assess the damage done to you because of your mother's behavior.

If anger comes up during this, these anger management techniques will help you, and you can also journal from your anger as described on this page.

Once you see clearly what happened to you and how it affected you, it will be easier for you to stand up to your mother and keep her from infringing on your life.

Keep your focus clear and strong on your own health and happiness. Put everything you have into creating a good life for yourself. Use the positive journaling exercises on this page to help with that.

Healthy boundaries are all about self love, Elain. Learn more about that on this page.

Believe in yourself and your good heart, and only allow people into your life that treat you with love and respect.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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