I Really Need Help Dealing With My Mother And My Anger
I felt like I'm being pressured a lot by my mother. Let me explain a bit about her. She can change her decision in just one day.
I'm tired of following her instruction and whereby she always said that she doesn't force me to do it. But the way she acts, I don't think so. She will pressure me up until I follow what she thinks is right and when the plan is not according to what she wants, she then quickly regrets it.
It makes me so mad. For me what is done is done. Can you imagine, now I'm in the peak of thinking where to further up my studies and for two whole month, she would pressure me up on what she thinks is right. Day and night I would listen to the same thing.
It's making me full of rage. When I said this is not the right time as I don't like to talk back, she wouldn't understand and keep on pressuring on the same spot. I got a headache by being too mad about it. I couldn't even release it. Right now, I couldn't handle it. I felt like breaking something to make her to shut her mouth up.
My father, I don't even bother to explain to him. No use at all.
Another thing is that this guy keeps pestering me. I told him so many times that I had no interest in him and he keeps pestering me of what we had before this. Seriously, it pissed me off. This guy never stopped bothering me for like a year.
I'm so angry. Enough of my parents' problems, now I got this. How could I even calm my self down?
I don't even know how. So I come across this thing and wonder if it works. Sometimes I felt like hurting myself or someone else or even break some stuff. I want to release the anger I feel inside but I couldn't.Response from Dr. DeFoore
Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. It is great that you want to focus on your studies, and I can tell you're having trouble with your anger and your relationships.
I want you to know you're not alone. Many young people feel like you do, and for that reason, I have put together some steps that will help you, which you will find on this FAQ page
. Follow each step seriously, and hopefully that will give you some relief.
By the way, it's not a question of whether a technique will "work" or not--it's a question of your will to be the person you choose to be. Make up your mind who and how you want to be, use the methods I've linked to here, and you will definitely make progress. These methods work for those who use them seriously and consistently.
You can do this. Believe in yourself and the good person you are inside.
My very best to you,