I Need Some Advice After Being Separated From My Family

by Erin

I loved your site first of all. But I have a problem that I need resolved. I have this roommate who has been with us for 15 months. She was only suppose to be here for a few months.

Well the 3 months has become 1 year. Since she moved in and stayed I have become angrier and angrier. I have not been able to go to school because I have had to watch her kids because no one else would.

The last time I really got mad was when I asked this "friend" how her day was going, and she told me fine. When my husband gets home she goes right to him and tells him how her day went. Maybe I am blowing this out of proportion, but she has done this time and time again.

Anything I do to her she runs to him and tells him about everything I have said and done to her. She doesn't confront me about it, she goes to him.

And my husband says that I am the one causing the drama not her. It's like he is always upset with me because I have said to her that wasn't nice. She will not get out. I am living 400 miles away (we're going through a separation). She is staying in my house with MY husband and MY son.

My doctor that I see every so often is even telling me she needs to leave, for my own piece of mind and for me. My doctor has to increase my meds three times and now she has got me on a med that is suppose to help me with my stress. I went from 25mill to 150 mill.

I have lost my husband and my son because of my anger. I have read book after book, and nothing is helping. I did take the test on this website. My anger is at the extreme, and I'm not surprised. Please tell me what to do. Any books any test. Just anything.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Erin, and thanks for telling your story here. I am very sorry for your losses. I imagine the pain must be very intense. I will try to help.

I suggest first of all that you do all of the exercises on this FAQ page. Take them seriously, and you will benefit. I also recommend that you consider getting a copy of one of our CDs. You will get great benefit.

You can do this, Erin. You are a good person inside, and all of your healing process is for the purpose of bringing that good person to the surface.

Believe in yourself and the goodness of your heart.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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