I Just Got Married And Cannot Control My Temper

by Fathima
(South Africa)

Hi. I'm from South Africa. I'm 21 years old. I got married a month ago.

Because of my temper, I'm having problems in my marriage. I desperately need help please!

I just cannot control my temper. If anyone says bad about me, or speaks to me harsh, I lose my temper. I start screaming and I get really angry.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Fathima, and thanks for telling your story here. It is good that you want to get help with your anger. I'm sure you're smart and strong enough to follow my recommendations.

I strongly suggest that you do all of the exercises described on this FAQ page. These are powerful tools, designed for good people just like you who want to manage their anger and improve their relationships.

I also suggest that you read these pages on relationships:

quotes on relationships
relationship advice

You and your husband also need to get a copy of Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. This book has exercises for married couples, which will be very helpful to you in your new marriage. I also suggest that you get copies of our CDs/audio downloads for marriage. You can purchase the CDs, or you can download and start learning and healing instantly.

You can do this, Fathima. You have what it takes to manage your anger and have a good marriage. Believe in yourself.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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