I Forgive You

by Robann
(Kentucky)

I forgive you. I forgive you. I forgive you. After all you have done to me and all the hurtful things you have said to me. After all the fights and nights full of tears because I loved you so much and could not understand why you hurt me so...I forgive you. It's incredibly ridiculous to think that I still love you, but I do.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Robann, and thanks for telling your story here. Your desire to forgive is wonderful. Just make sure you're also taking care of yourself. Forgiving an abuser while he's still abusing you, and continuing to allow the abuse, is almost the same as abusing yourself.

You might want to read this entire page on forgiveness, and make sure you have expressed your anger, and fully acknowledged the depths of your wounds, before moving to forgiveness.

Forgiveness is for you, so make sure it's good for you and not just for the other person.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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