I Can't Let My Anger Go

by Lisa
(Delray Beach, FL)

I've been with my husband for 10 years and married for only 1 year, and we have a 2 year old son. And just about everyday we fight and argue all the time.

And to be honest with you a lot of the fighting is from me. I blame a lot of my anger on my husband and I can't stop. I'm tired of hurting him the way I do. It's not right and it's not fair and I can't stop.

He doesn't deserve it. Sometimes it gets so bad that I just want to hurt myself. I don't mean to be the way I am but I can't help it. I don't want to hurt my family and I don't know what to do anymore.

I need help and I'm not afraid to admit it. I just don't what to do. Can someone please help me? I love my husband so much, and I'm scared I might lose him over my anger problems. Please, I need help.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Lisa, and thanks for telling your story here. I respect your honesty and your willingness to take responsibility for your anger. Your heart-felt desire to stop hurting your husband and your family is testimony to your own goodness. You don't like the anger because it doesn't match who you really are inside and who you want to be.

There are good reasons for your anger, however, and you need to find out what they are. Please do all of the recommended exercises on this
FAQ page. This will help you tremendously, but only if you do the exercises consistently.

You can do this, Lisa. You can heal, and become the good person, wife and mother you want to be.

Believe in yourself and the goodness of your heart.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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