I Can't Figure Out Why I Argue So Much

by Anonymous

I have a great relationship, with a lovely young lady. It seems we get along great all week, but when the weekend comes it seems it's ruined by my arguing.

We always start our night out great, but it usually ends up with me starting an argument for no reason. I don't want to treat my lady wrong. Our weekends usually include dining and drinking or a movie.

I am not abusive in any way but verbally I know I say stuff I do not mean--but it's still said.

I don't know if it's a certain thing that is said to set me off. It has happened too much. I'm just trying to figure it out, to stop it.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello, and thanks for telling your story here. I respect your willingness to take responsibility for your part of this problem. There is one thing I encourage you to explore, before even considering what else might be going on.

You describe your weekends as beginning with dining, drinking and a movie. Please read about the early warning signs of alcohol abuse on this page. If you have any doubt whatsoever about this, treat the substance abuse first--you won't get anywhere with the other issues until this one is addressed.

In addition to that, you might find these two pages helpful:

quotes on relationships
relationship advice

The journaling processes described on this page will also help you to get to know yourself, and perhaps help you understand where these arguments are coming from.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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