I Am Out Of Control With Alcohol And Anger

by Jean
(England)

I have a problem when I have alcohol. When going out with my partner, all can be going well until we get home.

I don't know what starts it, but it gets so out of hand. I get so angry, and call him foul names and say terrible things which a mature woman should not say.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Jean, and thanks for telling your story here. I know you're concerned about your anger, and that's good. However, you will not be able to make any progress in controlling your anger until you get sober. I suggest you join Alcoholics Anonymous and get started in your recovery program immediately.

If AA does not appeal to you, then consider this online Alcoholism Recovery Program (see picture above).

The way you started your story here says it all. You started out by saying you have a problem with alcohol. I respect your ability to see that and take responsibility for it. Now, it's time to take action to address it. Alcohol is a dis-inhibitor, which means it removes your inhibitions and allows you to say things and do things you otherwise would not.

Again, the alcohol must be addressed first...then you can begin healing from your emotional issues.

When you have some sobriety, maybe 6-9 months, write again on this site if you want to, and I'll help you with your anger.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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