I Am Always Angry At My Boyfriend

by Chellie
(Washington)

Every time and I mean every time I am with my boyfriend I take my anger out on him. He tries to make me feel better but I just yell at him.

And when I make him cry, I get mad and I start saying, "fine if you don't want to be with me its ok," and I try taking all my stuff back but he doesn't let me. So I rip things and then I say sorry and I feel bad and I don't know if I should just get away from him for a while or what?

He always takes me back but I don't think he can handle being with a very angry person. Especially if it's towards him. He knows I get angry, but he takes it overboard.

So, should I just leave him? Or get away from him?

I am only happy when I am with my friends. Other than that I cannot be happy. And if I'm happy with my boyfriend, little things tick me off when I am with him.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Chellie, and thanks for telling your story here. I will try to help you in two ways...one regarding your anger, and the other regarding your relationship.

I encourage you to follow all of the steps on this FAQ page. This is a powerful process, and if you follow it you will benefit tremendously.

To understand your relationship and what to do next, I suggest you read the following pages:

letting go of a relationship
relationship advice

This should help you to know what to do next regarding your boyfriend.

The bottom line to all of this is for you to focus on your own healing and well being, and stay away from relationships until you can manage your anger more effectively. No healthy person wants to be on the receiving end of anyone else's anger.

Do this for you, Chellie. Believe in the goodness of your heart.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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