You want to know how to deal with jealousy so that it doesn't drive you crazy with anger and suspicion!
Once your mind starts the suspicion and jealousy pattern, it's like a runaway freight train. Whether your partner is flirting, cheating or just acting strange, the suspicious mind can cause you tremendous unnecessary stress, fear and anger.
The key is to honor, love and respect yourself, shifting your focus from your partner to you. This gives you both freedom and responsibility, and takes you out of the victim position that makes jealousy such a miserable feeling.
Imagine this...you decide that you are an incredible, fine and attractive person. Your attitude becomes, "S/he is lucky to have me. S/he will either figure that out, or not. Either way, I'm moving ahead with my positive, happy life, and it s/he is smart and healthy enough, s/he can join me."
Get the idea? Rather than worrying about what your partner is doing or who they're doing it with, you are focusing on your own personal worth and value.
Here's how your thought process might go:
What you're doing here is shifting your focus from the other person to yourself. You have not freedom or responsibility regarding your partner's behavior, and you have total freedom and responsibility regarding yours. You will only find out how to deal with jealousy by focusing on yourself instead of the other person(s). Have a story or question about jealousy? Share it with us!
How do you get to the place where you feel that good about yourself? Good question...let's find out.
Here's the tough part--it has nothing to do with getting your partner to act right. It is all about managing your own emotions so that you can feel good and confident about yourself and your own value.
When you're feeling jealous, you are (unconsciously) making the other person more important and valuable than you are. So, the key to overcoming jealousy is to feel really good about yourself.
Here are some thoughts to consider:
You came to this page because you want to know how to deal with jealousy, and that's exactly what you're learning here.
It's all about loving yourself. Because you are your own best anger management resource.
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