Home Alone

by Bria
(Virginia)

One time me and my boyfriemd Brandon were at my house alone. I went upstairs to go get something, and he came up behind me and we started making out. We were on my bed and he knew I don't want any guy to touch me in places before marriage.

Then his hand went into my pants, and I tried to get up because this was going too far. And then he forced himself on me, using his hand. All I could do was cry and scream. It hurt, and I thought I could trust him. I was wrong. Now we've broken up.

But then one day i was walking to school and he came up behind me and gave me a hug and swore he loved me and told me I was beautiful. I want to take him back so badly. What should I do? I really think I love him.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Bria. I'm glad you are asking for help. You need to take care of yourself in this situation. You know that what he did was wrong--very wrong, and that is why you're questioning whether to get back together with him.

This boy sexually assaulted you, and it is in your best interest to have nothing to do with him. In your heart of hearts, you know this is true. If as you said, you cried and screamed, and he continued to violate you, that was sexual assault and you could press charges. What he did is against the law. There is no question about this.

You need to get some counseling, beyond just writing on this site. If you continue to see him, it is only a matter of time before he does something like that to you again. It is very important that you only be with people who treat you with respect and kindness.

I wish you all the best in learning to respect yourself and take care of yourself.

Dr. DeFoore