He's Always Mad At Me!

by Carolina
(Laredo,TX)

He's always mad at me, for unreasonable things. Hes short-tempered, so there's a start!

I try to do everything he tells me to please him, and it never works. He always starts the fights and makes me look like the bad one in the conversation.

He says he's sorry at the end, but I don't accept his sorries that fast. Because I feel hurt by how harsh he sometimes is with what he says.

He talks to my best friend Abby & he tells her how bad he feels & how he can't believe he's with me, and that I deserve better. He says he loves me, & cares for me, but when it comes to showing me, he proves it all wrong.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Carolina, and thanks for telling your story here. You need to be more focused on what is good for you, and less focused on doing everything your partner tells you to please him. From what you've written here, it sounds like your partner is a very unhealthy person. I know you probably care for him, or love him. That's beside the point.

It's time for you to focus on being a healthy happy person, and when you've made progress toward that end, you may be ready to begin a new relationship. I suggest that you read the book entitled, Getting The Love You Want. It will guide you to fully understand relationships.

I also suggest you read the following FAQ page, which will give you a step by step process for dealing with an abusive relationship.

Believe in yourself, and make up your mind to create a good life for yourself.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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