Handling The Expected Driving Experiences

by Tetramobile

I don’t know if this is normal or not, but I don’t really have crazy road rage on a regular basis, but if certain things come up, I can’t help but start swearing at them.

When I drive in the city and traffic is packed and you can’t move, I’m completely fine. I understand that in the city, traffic is really bad and I expect it all the time. I don’t expect that things will go smoothly. I understand that I’m going to have to wait.

So, if people are trying to change lanes and even do stupid things, I completely understand that. Maybe they just can’t handle the traffic and they don’t know what they’re doing. What I don’t understand is when there is no traffic and the roads are perfectly clear and you can go whatever speed you want, people will still do stupid stuff.

There’s no reason to cut me off or speed around me just to slow down. There’s no point at all. There’s nothing to deal with, just drive. It’s almost as if they try and create an environment that’s more interesting to deal with than just driving.

Why can’t people just calmly drive and not act like that? That’s all I’m asking. I can handle it when it’s expected, but when people do it for no reason, I just don’t get it and crack. Maybe that’s my flaw, but I’ll acknowledge it.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Good for you for acknowledging your problem! And it is certainly understandable that you get angry when people do that to you. Anybody would. The question is, what do you do with your anger, and you were smart enough to write about it here. You don't want to give these other drivers control over your actions or emotions, so you might want to learn as much as possible about dealing with road rage. Remember, it is because you are basically a good person that you don't like to do aggressive things and make a bad situation worse.