Grandmother

by Cara
(Phoenix, AZ )

I am raising my three and 1/2 year old grandson. His father just recently got out of prison and saw him a couple of days and has not seen him since. His mother lives with her boyfriend and has some mental issues. Both of his parents are drug addicts.

His mother comes over some days spends some time and then leaves. He is in daycare. When they try to move him to another activity or for some other reason he goes off on them. It is so bad that they call me to come and get him. He takes off his shoes and throws them, his pants and throws them. Whatever is in reach he will throw.

He will try to pinch, bite, scratch, kick the doors. I have had him since birth, he knows he is safe with me. We do the same things everyday and is he is on a schedule. He does not act like this at home. I am getting him evaluated soon. I need help.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Cara, and thanks for telling your story here. It is great that your grandson has you in his life. You are clearly a blessing to him.

You're already doing a lot of good things, and that's why you don't have problems with him when he's with you. It could be that his erratic behavior is a result of things that have happened to him elsewhere.

Either way, it will help you to follow some of the guidelines on these pages:

Child Anger Management

Why Children Get So Angry

Parenting Skills For Angry Children

Also, take a look at this CD progam on Helping Your Children With Their Anger, and see if it is something you're willing to purchase and listen to.

Other than that, just keep up the good work, Cara. And tell him often what you like about him, in great detail.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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