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Fear Of Aging And Dying

by Betty
(Texas)

Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger, Wiser

Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger, Wiser

I am 54 years old. I have always looked younger than my age. When I turned 50, I lost my job as a paralegal, my best friend died, I found out I have sleep apnea, Diabetes II, and other ailments.


My expectation of what my life should be and what it is when I look around are not the same. I find myself disappointed and mad. My life as a whole began to slide down hill. My health, my looks, my zest for life. I find I have great anxiety now about many things but dying is a major. Can you help me? Please.



Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Betty, and thanks for telling your story here. Your feelings make perfect sense, and a lot of other people feel like you do.

The thing is, it doesn't have to be that way. Research out of Yale and Harvard Universities has shown that a positive attitude about aging greatly improves health and longevity.

I highly recommend you preview and consider getting a copy of my CD program Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger, Wiser. You can get a full refund if it's not what you're looking for. I promise it will really help you.

Your body is a naturally self-healing organism. It is not designed to just decline and fall apart. Your job of staying healthy, alert and fit as you age becomes more challenging, and that's a good thing. If you take the challenge, educate yourself and practice healthy patterns (physically and mentally), you will get great results!

Focus on your body/mind's natural regeneration, rejuvenation and revitalization processes. The more you believe in them the better they work!

Aging starts at birth, and ends at death--so, aging is life itself! Embracing aging is embracing life.

Make up your mind, Betty, to make your aging process the best thing that ever happened to you!

Regarding your fear of dying, I suggest you find a positive spiritual belief system that offers comfort and reassurance about death. Death is a part of life, and you can find peace with your life, including its eventual end.

Believe in yourself, Betty. Focus on the goodness in your heart and mind, and that is where your healing and rejuvenation will come from.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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Aug 08, 2010
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aging.....
by: Susan Doris

Dear Betty,

I am 52 years old and am here to say how glad I am that you described some of the same things that I have been feeling.

I saw my "younger self" and recently grieved for all the things I have not accomplished. My face although apparently young for my age feels old and wrinkled and my heart often feels hopeless and heavy, especially being open wide eyed enough to see the results of mankind on this planet.

I treasure all the moments that are easy and beautiful and peaceful and wish them to you as as well.
Susan

Aug 06, 2010
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Leap of Faith
by: David

Betty,
I just turned 60 this year and I too have always looked younger for my age. I believe mainly because I don't think of myself as an old man. Just wiser. Birth is such a blessed moment in everyone's life and I believe death holds the same respect. I haven't experienced much death in my life. Mainly my parents and my wife's parents. But in every death experience I saw and felt God's Love & blessing in it. I saw a peace come over them like no other peace I've ever experienced. Seeing that "Love" expressed even at our weakness moment, took the sting out of death for me. Dr DeFoore talked some about finding a good spiritual belief. I believe that was key for me. Having faith that I have been gifted with this life for a purpose. One that maybe not of my own design but from a much higher power than myself. People can never fulfill all our wants and needs, nor can we force things to always go our way. Have faith that you have a purpose in life and are equipped to live it to it's fullest. Often our greatest potential is walking through our greatest fears. Take that "leap of faith."

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