Ex-spouse Affirmations

by Anna

For years now I have been struggling with the issue of how to deal with my ex-husband when I have to be around him. I only have to see him on my children and grandchild's birthdays and other special occasions, but I suffer for weeks and even months in some cases, after having to be around him.

Before seeing him I have the energy and strength to do my work and my self-esteem and confidence continues to improve due to healing from my childhood and past. After seeing my ex-husband, I spend weeks or months with low ambition and lower self-esteem. At the same time, my ex-husband's ability to do his job and to live his life improves. I'm not sure how that happens, it just does. It's almost as if he takes my energy to live.

I know that this is ridiculous and that I should not allow him to have so much power over me. So, I wrote an affirmation script about how to deal with ex-spouses and I want to add it to this blog site. It helps me to read it and I hope that it will help someone else too.

“MY EX-SPOUSE”

I learn about how to deal with my ex-spouse from God and from those other people that I can trust. I also remember what I’ve already learned when I need to.

I know that my ex-spouse abused me in the past. I do my best to look at, face, feel and heal any difficult memories and feelings that I have about my past relationship with my ex-spouse. I also admit to any mistakes that I made in my ex-marriage.

I do my best to link these issues back to my childhood and past to see if anything happened in my childhood and past that was similar to or like what happened in my past relationship with my ex-spouse. I look at any ways that my mother and father’s marriage, my Grandparent’s marriage, or any other marriages were similar or like what happened with my marriage to my ex-spouse. I know that if I face, feel and heal these memories, I will be able to deal with my ex-spouse better.

I know how my ex-spouse treated me in the past and I know how I treated him/her in the past. I do not want to be in denial or avoidance about the truth of what my relationship was like with my ex-spouse in the past. I remember both the good and the bad about my marriage to my ex-spouse in the past.

I know that it is important to see the real truth about what my ex-spouse is like now and how much he/she has changed or not changed. I also know that it is important to see the real truth about myself and to see how much I have changed or not changed.

It is best for me to face, feel and heal from any anger, fear and sadness that I have about my ex-spouse. I believe in my ability to get better and to heal.

I do not try to abuse, manipulate or control my ex-spouse now and I do not allow my ex-spouse to abuse, manipulate or control me.

Healing from my past relationship with my ex-spouse helps me to be able to form healthier relationships now.