Don't Keep Your Anger Inside

by Ashley
(South Carolina)

My anger helps with my emotions. I understand that it is unhealthy to keep my anger in.

The thing that I need help with is the process where I can learn when I shouldn't keep my anger in, because what tends to happen with me is that I end up having built up frustration and anger which all comes out in a burst at the heat of a moment.

I need to learn the healthy way to express my anger because I feel like when I want to let someone know that I am getting frustrated I begin to start having that built up uncontrolled anger rising and about to spill over.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Ashley, and thanks for telling your story here. What you are saying here is wise. It is great that you recognize the value of healthy anger, and how important it is that you express it and not hold it in.

I think the exercises on this FAQ page will help you, especially the journaling--which (the anger journaling part) is a great way to get the anger out without doing any harm.

You might also enjoy this article on healthy anger, which I wrote several years ago. It will help you understand the true positive power behind anger when it is healthy.

Keep up the good work, Ashley. You are right on track.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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