Bottled Up And Out!

by Ashley
(San Diego California)

How can I just get rid of the anger altogether? Going over the Anger Management Assessment scale above, mostly I'm at a "4" and when I'm upset I skip all the way to a "10"! I'm 19 years old and I can't be around people without getting irritated, but its mainly with people I know. With strangers, I'm perfectly calm...kinda.

I know I have deeply rooted issues from my past. I thought I had locked them up, and I have always been good at concealing them, but the last 2 years I can't control it or contain it. I fight and scream beyond measure and say horrible things.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Ashley, and thanks for your story. It is great that you took the time to use the assessment scale. You are obviously a smart person who wants to live a good life. And you know that your anger can really mess it up if you let it.

Those deeply rooted issues are trying to work their way out of your system, just like an old thorn in your side tries to find its way out. That's why things seem to be getting worse lately. That will keep happening until you deal with your old issues--so I will help you with that.

Here is what I recommend:

1) Start by doing the journaling exercises on this page, starting with the "Trauma Writing" part to deal with your past issues. Before moving on to the other journaling steps, do the exercise in 2) below...

2) Next I want you to use these imagery processes for emotional healing to deal with the pain and trauma from your past. Only do this after you have done all of the "trauma writing" exercises.

3) Then practice these anger management techniques every day, several times a day, until you can do them all easily.

4) You might also want to check out some of the great CDs/audio downloads you will find on this page.

5) Also, please sign up for our free Healing Anger newsletter, which will give you a free download of the Ebook entitled Anger Management Techniques.

You've got what it takes to do this, Ashley. Set your mind and heart to it, and don't give up until you are getting the results you're looking for. Believe in yourself, and take very, very good care of you.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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