Angry About My Failure

by Carmen
(Milford, DE)

I am finding myself angrier than ever. I am angry at my husband for drinking and disappointing me in raising our child and our family.

I am angry and let down and tired. For 3 years, I have been the only one responsible for our daughter. Then our marriage was a joke. He let me invest my money in his house, take him on vacations and trips, invest in his kids and then he kicked me in the street.

Yes, I am angry at his family for not doing anything at least for my daughter. I am angry at myself for wasting my life and money on him and not seeing my family in Romania for almost 6 years and a half. I feel like I have wasted my life and whatever I do is not good enough.

I am angry, I curse more than him, I attack anyone I can to revenge on my pain. I feel like a wild beast. Yet, I am trying to be a good mom and a good teacher. It's like living a double life.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Carmen, and thanks for telling your story here. You have good reason for your anger, but it needs healing. You are a good person, which is why you told your story here. I will try to help.

You will find help on our FAQ page--follow the recommendations made there, and you will definitely feel better.

Believe in yourself and make up your mind to shift your focus in a positive direction. You can't afford to keep focusing on the things that make you angry, or it will continue to get worse.

Focus on your good heart, and do this work from that place.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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