Anger With Kids

by Keith
(VA)

I am the father of 3, 1 is a step son. I tend to get angry and raise my voice when they don't listen, especially after having to repeat it a few times. My wife says I have anger issues. I say that may be the case.

I also say that it helps when they listen within the first couple of times. Sometimes the kids will ask for something and be denied and then continue to ask and even to the point of begging. This really frustrates me.

Typically, when we are in a hurry for whatever reason my frustration level raises quicker. My wife says that raising my voice doesn't help but yet when I do things get done. My step son is "sensitive" and has a form of ADHD that he is treated for. Typically this is where my escalation comes into play and where my wife says the anger isn't necessary and doesn't like it.

What can I do?

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Keith, and thanks for telling your story on this site. It is clear that you are a good man, who wants to do the right thing. I respect your willingness to accept responsibility for your anger and ask for help.

I suggest you start by practicing these anger management techniques on a regular, daily basis until they become automatic. If you want more in depth help in this area, consider taking a look at the CD or Ebook on this page.

You also need to take a look at your own personal history, to discover where your anger comes from. Do the writing exercises on this page, going through all three steps including trauma writing, anger journaling and "Goodfinding."

Do deal with the emotional trauma in your personal background use these imagery processes for emotional healing and that will provide lasting relief and control for you.

You can also sign up for our free Healing Anger newsletter and receive a free copy of the Anger Management Techniques Ebook.

Make up your mind to do this, Keith, and you will. If you set your mind to the task, and use the above techniques consistently, you will get the results you're looking for.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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hen they listen within the first couple of times. Sometimes the kids will ask for something and be denied and then continue to ask and even to the point of "begging." This really frustrates me. Typically, when we are in a "hurry" for whatever reason my frustration level raises "quicker." My wife says that raising my voice doesn't help but yet when I do things get done. My step son is "sensitive" and has a form of ADHD that he is treated for and typically this is where the "escalation" comes into play and where my wife says it isn't necessary and doesn't like it when I do.

What can I do?